Comments on: “I was recently stood up by someone I had been out with a few times and liked. He had asked me to come over and help him with something, but when I got there he wasn’t there. He later said he hadn’t checked his email after I sent my message, so he didn’t think it was definite. He apologized and admitted it was rude of him, and asked me if I still wanted to “hang out.” My dilemma is how to interpret this as a dating optimist. In my eyes, it was a sign that I really wasn’t important to him, he must not be that into me, and I deserve to find a guy who would be so thrilled to have me over his house that he wouldn’t have missed it (I thought of your recent “A Miyagi “Love” Moment” post when this happened!) A friend however, thinks I should be forgiving and understand that guys just do this kind of thing even to people they really like because they are bad at multi-tasking. She thinks his apology was sincere and nice and proof enough that he really is into me. I’m wondering what your take is?”

Comments on: “I was recently stood up by someone I had been out with a few times and liked. He had asked me to come over and help him with something, but when I got there he wasn’t there. He later said he hadn’t checked his email after I sent my message, so he didn’t think it was definite. He apologized and admitted it was rude of him, and asked me if I still wanted to “hang out.” My dilemma is how to interpret this as a dating optimist. In my eyes, it was a sign that I really wasn’t important to him, he must not be that into me, and I deserve to find a guy who would be so thrilled to have me over his house that he wouldn’t have missed it (I thought of your recent “A Miyagi “Love” Moment” post when this happened!) A friend however, thinks I should be forgiving and understand that guys just do this kind of thing even to people they really like because they are bad at multi-tasking. She thinks his apology was sincere and nice and proof enough that he really is into me. I’m wondering what your take is?” —Lisa http://thelifeoptimist.com/letstalk/i-was-recently-stood-up-by-someone-i-had-been-out-with-a-few-times-and-liked-he-had-asked-me-to-come-over-and-help-him-with-something-but-when-i-got-there-he-wasnt-there-he-later-said-he-hadn/ a little bit of life and love positivity Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:42:16 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2