A great jack-o-lantern I found online (I wish I knew who carved it!)

Think about it: Brunettes can go blonde. Short girls can wear towering heels. Guys who played on the football team can wear ladies’ dresses and lipstick. And women who wear stuffy suits to the office can show up at a party in short skirts as “sexy flight attendants” or “sexy nurses” or “sexy sanitation workers” for that matter.

What’s my theory? That the one costume you’re most dying to slip into is the one of a role you don’t feel often enough—which means it’s something you should seek out more of as you look for your ideal relationship. If you think about it, it’s not just “witch”-ful thinking.

So here’s the test: What costume were you thinking about this year? And now that you think about it…what do you think this says about the role you don’t play often enough?

Are you a…brunette who wants to go blonde? If so, you’re probably women who feel they don’t break out of their safe, predictable, smart shell often enough. If this sounds like you, perhaps it’s time you started seeking a relationship that made you feel a bit more alive.

Are you a…short girl who wants to wear high heels? If so, you’re probably tired of playing the “cute” and “small” role and want to feel bolder and taller and bigger every now and then. If this is you, perhaps you should seek a relationship with someone who isn’t patting you on the head, but sees you as a force to be reckoned with.

Are you a…person who wants to dress wacky for a laugh? If so, you may be someone who likes being known for your brainac ideas or wacky point of view or flat-out goofy look. And maybe Halloween is your one time to shine. If this is you, you should make sure that the people you date think you’re God’s gift to comedy. Because if someone doesn’t think your jokes are funny now, things will get unfunny pretty fast. Make ‘em laugh on Halloween and every holiday to come.

Are you…a guy who wants to dress like a girl? Sure, most guys will say it’s just for the joke, but deep down (really deep down, maybe) they may also be so tired of being so manly and tough and strong; maybe they like the feeling of being lighter and more feminine for just one day. If this is you (shhh, I won’t tell anyone), perhaps you’re ready for a woman who can pull out that soft side from within you, who puts you in touch with your real feelings.

Are you a…woman who wants to wear a “sexy” costume? Well, that’s probably something we all want a little more of in life and love. And I think we all deserve to get it! So be sure to find a partner who thinks you are sexy as hell whether you’re dressed like a flight attendant or you’re wearing your sweats to bed. 

Whatever your costume this year, have a boo-tiful weekend, eat as many Reeses cups as you can, and toast the pumpkin seeds for a few seconds longer than you think you should. Mmmm, toasty. And let your potential costume guide you even closer to the person you’re most meant to be with.

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Big love and big BOOOO!